Valentine’s Day and all things mushy

So it seems fitting for today of all days to do a recap on my marriage. My husband and I met at a local youth group when we were 14 and 16 years old. We had dated for a few months then decided to just be friends. We did actually stay friends and went on several double dates together with other bf\gf’s. Then as time went by and a few “dates” by ourselves but nothing serious ever came about just many awkward first date scenarios. In 2013 I was 17 and graduating high school and he was 19 and joined the army we were still close friends. While he was at basic training we wrote letters, songs and shared a few short phone calls while he was gone but the future for when he got home was still up in the air. The day he got home he called me so excited to be back and asked me to meet up for breakfast and to catch up while running a few errands together. I met him that next day and just knew, I think he did too. He told me that same day that one day he would “wife me” and sure enough he was right. We went on several other dates most of which ended in me running up the stairs to be home before curfew.  We spent every single day together and everyday was like a new adventure  with my best friend by my side. He was funny, supportive, cute and I always just felt like he understood me. We clicked in a way that it feel like he was the home my heart had been searching for. Well dates turned into months and months turned into a proposal, we got married that June. I was 18 and newly pregnant when we got married so our start was unplanned, rough and fast paced. But I never felt like our son was the reason we got married just the reason we did it sooner than originally planned. Our date nights and fun adventures quickly turned into a party of three and it was the biggest blessing a surprise could have ever become. Since then we have gone through 2 more births, 2 moves, 1 year long deployment and many more lows and highs that don’t need to be mentioned. But we did it and have almost 5 years of marriage down. I know, I know, that’s not a very long amount of time compared to some others. But we’ve gone through a lot in our first years of marriage and I think it now gives us the certainty that we know how to bend without breaking. We have hard our fair share of hardships some where we both pushed through together and some when one person does a majority of the work while the other heals...... Its not always been a easy ride but it’s always been worth it and made us stronger along the way.  Is our marriage perfect now because of that? heckkkkkk nooooo sometimes that man drives me so crazy I can’t wait for him to go to work. He can be loud, sloppy, rude, dramatic, too into his phone, selfish and many more things. But if you only focus on the bad in someone that’s all you’ll ever see. But looking on the positive of it, he’s a great dad to our three babies and is so good about doing specific things for each specific child and their needs. He is always very calm, the peace and reassurance to my ever anxious and running mind. He has a very good sense of reading me and it’s comforting to have someone who can sense when your struggling without you having to bring it up. I have really bad anxiety so having someone that can talk me down and keep me anchored is literally the biggest blessing in a husband I could ask for. It’s a daily chore for him sometimes so honestly and I’m thankful for it everyday. He also loves me in my many forms, painting, dancing, blogging, raising kids, chickens, thin or heavier. No matter what I do I feel like I always have someone cheering me on and is shockingly always impressed by me. His personality is silly in the way that he can be very serious yet make me laugh all day long over simple every day things. My point is I could go on and on about what drives me nuts about him and if I dwelled on that daily I’m sure I could grow unhappy in my marriage very quickly. But when you read the kindness and the love and focus on that, everything changes. Cause the truth is you don’t need the perfect husband, you need a husband that loves you and is trying. Someone that’s always ready to learn more about you as you grow and change together. In my husband I have found many of the opposites to my qualities and quirks but it evens me out perfectly. My heart yearned for a place to be loved and feel at home. Somewhere I could be myself, without judgment or explanation. A place filled with support and friendship that would build me up. Somewhere cozy and comfortable like exhausting a deep breath. That’s what I found in my husband, my forever valentine for today and all my days. I love you to the moon and back 

B signing out to cover my valentine in kisses.
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